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Does "just relaxing" really aid fertility?

My DH and I have been TTC for almost a year now. All my friends tell
me to relax, stop trying, and it'll happen. They tell stories of friends
who got pregnant after they stopped trying. Is there any truth to the
"relax and it'll happen" thing?

Nothing relaxes someone like telling them they HAVE to relax. Stress
can delay or even prevent ovulation. So if you are so stressed out
from TTC, it is possible that your stress is sabotaging your efforts.
For most people, though, stress doesn't mean they can't ovulate...

Look at it this way, many people who have been ttc for more than a
few months are stressed. Most of those people, though, do
eventually get pregnant. I think you hear stories about people getting
pregnant after they stop TTC because they are unusual. A couple
who was freaking out because they were ttc for 8 months and didn't
get pregnant, then decided to stop officially trying and gets pregnant
in the 9th month is a fun story. That story will get told. No one tells
the story about a couple who TTC for 8 months and were feeling
stressed out and then got pregnant in the 9th month of trying. That's
a boring story.

The reality is, you are more likely to get pregnant if you are trying. By
trying, I mean that you need to time DTD properly and not just DTD
randomly. But just because you are trying to time things correctly
doesn't mean you need to be stressed out or obsessive. Many
women love charting, but others find it stressful. If you find it
stressful, toss out the chart. DTD based on OPKs or other fertility

So, the short answer is this: As a strategy for getting pregnant, the
"stop trying" strategy isn't too likely to yield results.
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